All of this is trail and error. The end game is liberation. Freedom can’t be given to you by a government or a romantic partner. It’s not your parents fault. Find tools that untie your strings.
Patriotism is defined simply as “love for or devotion to one’s country.” I love this country not for what we are, but what we can be. When push comes to shove, I really believe that we show up for each other. In times of tragedy and triumph, we recognize that we’re all in this thing together. Disagreement on how to manage government is a fundamental part of our patriotism, but I’d argue that how we choose to shape that conversation defines us.